Anger is normal emotion, but men sometimes express anger in unhealthy ways. When I was growing up, anger was not an acceptable emotion for me to express around my father. I believe he found it disrespectful, so I repressed my anger like many men. It acts like a ticking time bomb that when triggered releases inappropriately in the form of yelling, using profanity, breaking things and physical abuse.
Men’s Anger Management Issues Can Lead to:
Suicide, which is the turning of anger on oneself
Loss of relationships and jobs
The definition of abuse is; anytime you create fear in someone because of your words and/or actions. When I was teaching court ordered domestic violence groups for men some of the things I realized was men in these groups:
Learned their expression of anger from their father’s or from other men in their lives.
Were abused themselves.
Their anger masked other underlying emotions such as; sadness, fear, loneliness, and depression.
What can Men do to Deal with Anger Management Issues:
Talk to a trusted person or a trained therapist to learn coping mechanisms and deal with underlying emotions.
When you're in a situation where you find your anger building, remove yourself from that situation, take a walk, a timeout.
While you're taking a timeout avoid talking yourself up by using self talk and thoughts to escalate your anger but instead talk and calm yourself down.
Engage in relaxation techniques such as; visualization, meditation, breathing techniques.
The Steps Leading to Change Include:
Acknowledge that you need to make some changes.
Ask for help. So that you can learn strategies and coping mechanisms in dealing with your anger.
Take action. “To know and not to do, is not to know.” Implement your strategies and coping mechanism.
Understanding and addressing your anger is a vital step toward fostering healthier relationships, promoting emotional well-being, and reducing the negative impact of uncontrolled anger on you and those around you. By improving your communication skills, self-awareness, and seeking support, you can channel your emotions constructively and build a more compassionate and balanced life. You can break the cycle of anger and aggression, replacing it with empathy, understanding, and personal growth.